Define “Hard”

We all do hard things every day. Life can be hard. Some of the things we do seem more difficult for whatever reason. A task that you find easy could seem hard to someone else and the other way around. Sometimes we don’t even notice how hard it was until it’s over. This makes “hard” tough to define.

Think about the most difficult, challenging thing you’ve ever done. Something major like raising a child or watching a loved one suffer through an illness. Maybe it was completing a marathon or speaking in front of a large group. How did you prepare for that? How did you feel after you were done? Did it feel harder before or after?

You’ve done amazing things in your life. You’ve fought battles and won. You’ve grown. You’ve amazed yourself and others. So this thing in front of you now, whatever it is…you’ve got this. Trust that you can do it. Visualize the end. Believe.

Tell me what you’ve accomplished and what you face now. I’ll be your cheerleader.

Namaste,

Melissa

A Little Something Personal

I’ve been writing about making changes, New Year’s resolutions, and willpower, hopeful that I can inspire others to stick with it when the going gets rough. Today I want to share a little about my personal journey this January.

Wellness and balance. Those are my goals for 2019. I came out of the gate strong and during the 3rd week of the month I felt especially proud of the progress I’d made. Then something completely unexpected happened. A leak near our water meter meant we went 4 days without running water at our house. You may have experienced this. It sucks.

Almost immediately I noticed an ENORMOUS desire to stress eat. I wanted sugar, sugar, and more sugar. And wine. Two no-no’s on my wellness plan. Even when I could keep those cravings at bay I found I just wanted to eat. Anything. The stress was trying to take it’s toll but I was determined.

Not having water changed how and what I could cook. All my meal plans for the week went down the drain. I had to improvise in a way I wasn’t used to at all. How do you cook, but not use very many dishes or pots, and not need water for what you cook? Stress level – 11.

The first day I was sure I’d starve. At the end of day two I gained some confidence. I’d make it longer that I thought I could and I hadn’t caved. It took every bit of willpower I could summon but I did it. I stuck to my plan. Yes, it was hard. No, I wouldn’t want to do it again. The takeaway for me is that my will is strong. I can accomplish anything even in the face of unexpected circumstances. Quitting isn’t an option.

Bring on February and the rest of 2019. I’m ready for whatever the year brings!

Namaste,

Melissa

Willpower

How strong is your willpower? We all have it in some measure, we just don’t use it all the time. We have kind of a love/hate relationship with this mysterious force. When we set and then work to achieve goals, willpower can play a large part. If we stumble or fail it’s easy to blame willpower.

When you think of willpower as a tool it’s an asset. Keep these things in mind:

  • Willpower is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. So flex your willpower often and notice the results.
  • Willpower is a practice and it must be practiced daily. Maybe all day. A misstep early in the day doesn’t make the entire day a fail. Get back to the practice of willpower and turn the day around.
  • Willpower is strongest in the morning. If your goal is related to accomplishing one thing a day, do it early for best results. This applies to workouts, starting or finishing a project, meditating, etc.
  • Since willpower can diminish throughout the day, plan for it. You may need fuel for your body or rest for your mind to accomplish things later in the day. Know your weakness and plan around it.
  • Willpower is contagious. Find people with strong willpower and hang out with them. It’s ok to temporarily avoid the person who saps your willpower until you feel stronger.
  • Share your goals with others. When you say them out loud you create a system of accountability. Someone is bound to ask about your progress and you’ll want to give a good report. Accountability can strengthen willpower.
  • Don’t let a set back derail your plan. You’re human – you mess up, you move on. Learn from your willpower hiccup and start over.

Believe in yourself, tap into your willpower, and learn to use it to your advantage as often as possible. Be willing to try and try again. Don’t give up. You’ve got this!

Namaste,

Melissa

Change the Way You Think

From time to time this question comes up…what would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail? I love this question. It gives us permission to dream big. It allows us to imagine all the fun we could have being our best selves while being assured success. If you’ve never thought about this one, or haven’t lately, spend some time with it. Write down some of your pie-in-the-sky ideas and notice how good it makes you feel.

Then ask yourself this second question…why do you think you would fail? What stops you from realizing your dreams? Is it negative self talk? Do you surround yourself with people who try to hold you back or discourage you? Do you think you lack something you need to be successful? Write these things down too, and question how valid they are and if you could change any or all of them.

Tip: sometimes when you change the way you think about success you open new doors.

Another tip: don’t let other people bring you down.

Namaste,

Melissa

What is Healthy?

January can be a time when we start new habits designed to make us healthier. But what is healthy? I think it can be different for everyone. I’d love to hear what you think is healthy.

It can be a number like weight, blood pressure, calories, or miles. Some consider portion size or blood sugar. Another number might be times per week engaged in an activity like sleeping or lifting weights. Healthy is sometimes a number.

Healthy can be a feeling too. Happiness, contentment, serenity. It’s measured in things you love to do that feed your soul. Healthy is your relationships and job and outlook on life. It’s how you spend your down time and how often you laugh. It’s your connection to the earth, heaven, and the stars. Healthy is gratitude.

You aren’t just a body or just a mind. You’re the whole package – body, mind, and spirit. To be the healthiest version of you, your thoughts about health should include the entire you.

Take a holistic approach to inspired living.

Namaste,

Melissa

Moon Energy

Do you love to look at the moon? It’s a bit like when you “stop to smell the roses” – a few minutes spent gazing at the moon will bring a smile to your face. The moon changes all the time, like us. Each evening as it rises it’s slightly different than the previous night. It moves in cycles, again, much like us. I believe we’re affected by the moon. What do you think?

The moon is a feminine, receptive energy. It’s has a cooling affect. The moon is yin, while the sun is yang. The Sanskrit word hatha (as in hatha yoga) is ha (sun) and tha (moon). In some yoga traditions they abstain from the physical yoga poses on the full and new moons. When it comes to the breath, the inhale represents a full moon and the exhale represents the new moon. Astrologers believe your moon sign is an important aspect of your personality, just like your sun sign.

All moon phases are significant. A ritual done on the day of the new moon helps to clarify our intentions and asks the moon to support their manifestation. You can join me in a new moon ritual every month. Check for dates and times here.

Let me know how the moon shows up in your life.

Namaste,

Melissa

Happy New Year!

January 1, 2019 is here! It’s the time of year when we have a kind of mental reset. We try to let go of the past and look forward to new experiences and ways of being. It’s a fresh start and another chance to live our best lives. This is the time when we dream of the changes we hope to manifest in the next 12 months.

In the United States we begin the new year with a holiday. So whether you have the day off or you need to work, take a few minutes for you. Say a silent good-bye to the stuff you want to leave in 2018. Follow that with a silent thank you to the wonderful stuff you don’t want to let go. Then close your eyes and imagine all you want to do in 2019. The big things and small things. The  things just for you and the things you’ll do for others. The ways in which you’ll grow and expand. Write some of them down or simply ask the universe to support you as you reach for the stars.

The possibilities are endless. There’s no stopping us. 2019 is our year to shine.

Namaste,

Melissa

Goals

It’s that time of year again. Time to look ahead. Time to make some New Year’s Resolutions. Time to set goals. Do you love it or loathe it?

We’ve all felt the exciting rush of the new year when everything seems possible. Several short weeks later we find we’re back into our old patterns. We beat ourselves up because we couldn’t achieve all we’d set out to do. That feeling of defeat is the worst. The fact is we often over commit. We don’t have a solid plan. We don’t have a support system. We don’t follow through. It’s almost as if the system sets us up for failure.

Sometimes, even if the goal is small, we need help. A holistic health coach can give you the support you need. They help you set realistic goals and keep you on track as you achieve them. A holistic health coach is part fitness expert, part nutritional counselor, and part cheerleader. And they take a holistic approach that fits you and your lifestyle.

This is my job and I’d love to work with you. Come in for a free consultation. We’ll get to know each other and see if we can work well as a team. You can be your best self in 2019. I can help.

Request more information here.

Namaste, 

Melissa

The Winter Solstice

Today is the winter solstice. Do you think about the solstice as the shortest day of the year or the longest night of the year? Do you consider it a day to celebrate? Does it feel magical to you? Some view it simply as how the earth circles the sun. Others find deeper religious or spiritual meaning.

The winter solstice falls just before Christmas every year. During this time of year we can feel outwardly focused. The solstice, with its many hours of darkness, invites us to slow down and look inward. It asks us to reflect on the season, on the year that was, and the year that is to come. 

It’s a great day for a ritual of some kind. Get outside, if you can, during the day or the night to appreciate the earth. Hold a stone in your hand. Put your feet in the grass. Spend time under the moon – it happens to be a full moon this year. Sip a cup of tea and read something that inspires you. Take a long, hot bath. Gather your family and friends to share and laugh. Meditate, pray, or give thanks.

The rest of the year will certainly fly by quickly. Take a moment today to breathe deeply and be present.

Namaste,

Melissa

Add In the Good Stuff

When you look for ways to make positive changes, why not add in the good stuff? It feels less like a sacrifice AND it feels great to do something that’s good for you.

Imagine you drink 6 cups of coffee a day. The first cup is delicious and soothing but by the sixth cup you feel jittery with an upset stomach. You want to cut down but it’s hard to make the change. Add in a cup of water (it can even be hot water) and see how that goes. Yes, you may still drink 6 cups of coffee but you’ve added something good. After a week you could add another cup of water OR try to replace one cup of coffee with water. Continue to slowly add good stuff to replace the bad stuff. 

Need more exercise? A short walk, maybe up a flight of stairs, could be an easy addition. Try a few sit ups first thing in the morning. Start with ten then increase when it feels right. Do a few gentle stretches at your desk. Small things make a difference.

Go to bed 5 minutes early or get up 5 minutes early. Limit your screen time and begin to lower the limit each week. Read 2 pages of a book. Compliment someone. Enjoy a few minutes of uninterrupted quiet time once a day. Smile.

Make the change easy and the change will be easier to make.

Namaste,

Melissa