Define “Hard”

We all do hard things every day. Life can be hard. Some of the things we do seem more difficult for whatever reason. A task that you find easy could seem hard to someone else and the other way around. Sometimes we don’t even notice how hard it was until it’s over. This makes “hard” tough to define.

Think about the most difficult, challenging thing you’ve ever done. Something major like raising a child or watching a loved one suffer through an illness. Maybe it was completing a marathon or speaking in front of a large group. How did you prepare for that? How did you feel after you were done? Did it feel harder before or after?

You’ve done amazing things in your life. You’ve fought battles and won. You’ve grown. You’ve amazed yourself and others. So this thing in front of you now, whatever it is…you’ve got this. Trust that you can do it. Visualize the end. Believe.

Tell me what you’ve accomplished and what you face now. I’ll be your cheerleader.

Namaste,

Melissa

A Little Something Personal

I’ve been writing about making changes, New Year’s resolutions, and willpower, hopeful that I can inspire others to stick with it when the going gets rough. Today I want to share a little about my personal journey this January.

Wellness and balance. Those are my goals for 2019. I came out of the gate strong and during the 3rd week of the month I felt especially proud of the progress I’d made. Then something completely unexpected happened. A leak near our water meter meant we went 4 days without running water at our house. You may have experienced this. It sucks.

Almost immediately I noticed an ENORMOUS desire to stress eat. I wanted sugar, sugar, and more sugar. And wine. Two no-no’s on my wellness plan. Even when I could keep those cravings at bay I found I just wanted to eat. Anything. The stress was trying to take it’s toll but I was determined.

Not having water changed how and what I could cook. All my meal plans for the week went down the drain. I had to improvise in a way I wasn’t used to at all. How do you cook, but not use very many dishes or pots, and not need water for what you cook? Stress level – 11.

The first day I was sure I’d starve. At the end of day two I gained some confidence. I’d make it longer that I thought I could and I hadn’t caved. It took every bit of willpower I could summon but I did it. I stuck to my plan. Yes, it was hard. No, I wouldn’t want to do it again. The takeaway for me is that my will is strong. I can accomplish anything even in the face of unexpected circumstances. Quitting isn’t an option.

Bring on February and the rest of 2019. I’m ready for whatever the year brings!

Namaste,

Melissa

Willpower

How strong is your willpower? We all have it in some measure, we just don’t use it all the time. We have kind of a love/hate relationship with this mysterious force. When we set and then work to achieve goals, willpower can play a large part. If we stumble or fail it’s easy to blame willpower.

When you think of willpower as a tool it’s an asset. Keep these things in mind:

  • Willpower is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. So flex your willpower often and notice the results.
  • Willpower is a practice and it must be practiced daily. Maybe all day. A misstep early in the day doesn’t make the entire day a fail. Get back to the practice of willpower and turn the day around.
  • Willpower is strongest in the morning. If your goal is related to accomplishing one thing a day, do it early for best results. This applies to workouts, starting or finishing a project, meditating, etc.
  • Since willpower can diminish throughout the day, plan for it. You may need fuel for your body or rest for your mind to accomplish things later in the day. Know your weakness and plan around it.
  • Willpower is contagious. Find people with strong willpower and hang out with them. It’s ok to temporarily avoid the person who saps your willpower until you feel stronger.
  • Share your goals with others. When you say them out loud you create a system of accountability. Someone is bound to ask about your progress and you’ll want to give a good report. Accountability can strengthen willpower.
  • Don’t let a set back derail your plan. You’re human – you mess up, you move on. Learn from your willpower hiccup and start over.

Believe in yourself, tap into your willpower, and learn to use it to your advantage as often as possible. Be willing to try and try again. Don’t give up. You’ve got this!

Namaste,

Melissa

Happy New Year!

January 1, 2019 is here! It’s the time of year when we have a kind of mental reset. We try to let go of the past and look forward to new experiences and ways of being. It’s a fresh start and another chance to live our best lives. This is the time when we dream of the changes we hope to manifest in the next 12 months.

In the United States we begin the new year with a holiday. So whether you have the day off or you need to work, take a few minutes for you. Say a silent good-bye to the stuff you want to leave in 2018. Follow that with a silent thank you to the wonderful stuff you don’t want to let go. Then close your eyes and imagine all you want to do in 2019. The big things and small things. The  things just for you and the things you’ll do for others. The ways in which you’ll grow and expand. Write some of them down or simply ask the universe to support you as you reach for the stars.

The possibilities are endless. There’s no stopping us. 2019 is our year to shine.

Namaste,

Melissa

Goals

It’s that time of year again. Time to look ahead. Time to make some New Year’s Resolutions. Time to set goals. Do you love it or loathe it?

We’ve all felt the exciting rush of the new year when everything seems possible. Several short weeks later we find we’re back into our old patterns. We beat ourselves up because we couldn’t achieve all we’d set out to do. That feeling of defeat is the worst. The fact is we often over commit. We don’t have a solid plan. We don’t have a support system. We don’t follow through. It’s almost as if the system sets us up for failure.

Sometimes, even if the goal is small, we need help. A holistic health coach can give you the support you need. They help you set realistic goals and keep you on track as you achieve them. A holistic health coach is part fitness expert, part nutritional counselor, and part cheerleader. And they take a holistic approach that fits you and your lifestyle.

This is my job and I’d love to work with you. Come in for a free consultation. We’ll get to know each other and see if we can work well as a team. You can be your best self in 2019. I can help.

Request more information here.

Namaste, 

Melissa